LIFE DIARY: Being Yourself..?

"Just be Yourself."
The most common phrase said to all people growing up unless you are Asian but that is a whole different story to talk about later.

Life is about, well- almost anything you want it to be because it is your life. Most people say things without thinking about what the other person wants which is pretty normal/common or in some cases- rude. Life can have many meanings but it just depends on what YOU, as a person, would like it to mean.

Being yourself can have many positive and negative things.
For example, work. The environment you work in has rules which everyone usually abides too or not but the main thing is that you should be respectful of your piers, co-workers, customers, and more. Another things is, Family gatherings. For some people, it's about fun and enjoying time and for others, it's about image. YES, Image. I don't like that word when it comes out of my parents mouth when I went to family or any gatherings with them but that's just how things were for them.

For all the people who wear makeup, this topic is always brought up.
I find it hard for people to understand that maybe, we just want to wear makeup. In a sense, society has brought upon this, "ideal," look that we have to appear a certain way to get noticed by others and this can mean wearing a ton of makeup to be noticed or even being someone we are not because nobody wants a person like- US.

It's hard being yourself when you are not appreciated for being, "different," in society or even with your own family. The worse part is when you don't like yourself for being- YOU and that can be very depressing and make your self-esteem very low. No one should feel like that about themselves but the other thing is, EVERYBODY should be appreciated for existing.

PICTURE TAKEN BY KOU MOUA - FADED PRODUCTION CREW

When it comes to my circle of friends/family that I hangout with (Which is pretty small since I am a loner), I love it that I can be myself with them all the time (and my LOVER. He's the exception because he should love me for me anyways so of course I will be myself). When we do hangout, we can all be ourselves which is usually on the line of, "Crazy and Super Honest." What I mean when I say, "Super Honest," is that we would just say what we think and want because we have no boundaries with each other and don't get offended easily. I think it's because we are all probably the same or just know each other very well. Maybe I should just show you all in a vlog later/soon so you all can see just how, "HONEST," my group of friends/family.

PICTURE TAKEN BY KOU MOUA - FADED PRODUCTION CREW

If you are not in a relationship, You should take time to Find Yourself but if you are in one, You partner should like/love you for you and you should not feel obligated to be someone you are not. I mean, everyone uses the bathroom and everyone farts. You should not feel BAD if you fart in front of your partner because I'm sure they fart too unless they are like Peter Griffin from Family Guy who took 18 years to let out his first fart gas.

Not being in a relationship is pretty good because you can take time to find yourself without having to worry about anyone but yourself (and family depending on your relationship with them). That means, focusing on self goals, travel, and other things. That doesn't mean that being in a relationship, you can't enjoy those things too but you might have less to think about and less things to give you a headache. I'm just saying from experience.

On another note, it is good to know common sense/manners.
I believe that common sense will save everyone's life whether they speak a different language or they are just a baby/toddler. Not only will it save lives in person but also EVERYWHERE ELSE like online, driving (Especially), and even to animals. Sometimes, you find/see/notice that there is just that one person that seems just seems like- They just don't have no common sense which makes you wonder with a lot of anger/brain power, "How were they raised?" Oh, we have all wondered that. No lie~.

You will always find yourself changing everyday and its not bad but it can be scary.
Change can be good or it can be bad but that just depends on how you take it in you life. It can either be a long time before you get used to change or be short but never forget that you are a big part of change. Although we are all just living life, the life we live can change things slowly through time or even have a huge effect on someone who you just walk by.

Never forget that you are apart of the world and YOU can always make a big difference.
Gosh, I feel like this post/topic kind of got off the idea/title for the post..? I mean, I'd like to address a lot of things about being yourself but I think the most important thing that I can say is that YOU should find friends who you can connect with without having any backlash to how often you see each other or more.

That is all for this post though. I am truly sorry that this post is kind of- weird, but I'm glad that I got to address this topic because I've noticed that with all the social media and everything that is happening around the world/country, being, "you," has become an issue to life and especially, anything government related but that is a WHOLE new topic.

I'll just end it here with a, "Bye&Good Night."

HUG&LOVES,

Frany

LIFE DIARY: Cherishing the Little Things

There are some days and times that should be always be remembered.

Today marks the 7th Year my Lover and I have been together.
Every relationship has their ups and downs so I won't lie and say everything is perfect but I can say that what we have been through is something to be proud about because it has been 7 years and I can say that our relationship is and always will be a working, growing, and loving process.

I'm not the type to put my relationship out in public because sometimes, the world does not need to know every little detail about my life. I know people are curious and some would just like to know what/how the love grows which is fine but every little detail is just "too much" sometimes.

I wanted to write this post based on something that my little fam-bam came up with when we were still, "Dumb, Young, Wild, and Free,' which is:

Cherish the Little Things

It may sound very redundant and I'm pretty sure all of you are probably going to laugh and say things that I already have an idea of but I really mean it. Life can just pass by and people can just, GROW UP without you even noticing. I, personally, thought that life would change very slow and I can grow at my own pace but 365 days goes by quick and 24 hours is certainly not enough time to do a lot if you are working 8 hours, need to sleep about 5-10 hours in split time, and still need to run errands.

I'm only 22 and I feel like Life is already passing by way to quick and enjoying every minute is hard enough if I have "priorities" like that everyday. It's sad and happening a lot quicker as you age because you start to notice things you have never before too. Just like how beautiful the sky can be in many colors or how a cup of noodles is truly your life saver food on a budget and when you are starving. It's funny, I know because I am laughing as I am typing this, but it's truly the reality of Life and Time together.

If you have read my LIFE DIARY post from Last Month, You know my top goal is about being Happy. Happiness is what I truly want to achieve and to live without any unpleasant thoughts and regrets that I will look back on. I truly want to stick by this Goal because not a lot of people get to have a roof over their head, internet access, the latest cell phone, or more. I want to truly make sure that I spend my time cherishing the little things that come by my life.

I am spending the day just like every other day because of work and other things too. I'll probably post something about our little adventure this weekend or something. It won't be very exciting because we'll probably be running errands anyways...

That is all for this post.
I just wanted to do a life update and reading these are probably kind of boring but they are just small diaries to vlogging my life. I'll vlog soon when I am everything is ready and set but for now, these are going to be more vlog-related to fill in the gaps.

HUGS&LOVE,

Frany

LIFE DIARY: Hello to "YOU"

Happy 2016 Everyone

I hope you all had a splendid Holiday and New Year celebration.

I know I did with my families and friends but to be honest, more family...

Usually, when the New Year comes, you want to set new goals along with goals that you already have or have not achieved. I usually always remind myself of old goals from years ago by listing them and then slowly still try to achieve them. Most of them where high school girl dream goals that consist of love, happiness, weight watching, and food. Normal right?

Slowly, as you age, you start to dream a little bigger, want more things, or something along the line. This year, I kind of want to stick to some simple goals ago which is, Living happy and wishing for more great memories with a little bit of travel if possible, try weight watching myself, and maybe even be more productive than ever.

Goals are meant to be something that can be dreamed and achieved with lots of determination and work. I would like to work hard this year and achieve these goals of mines like this. With age, you slowly become more realistic with self goals and slowly, start to enjoy the small things that are "boring" like sleeping, being lazy and doing nothing.

NEW SELF GOALS:

I have been setting goals for the past couple of weeks and making a list of them. I have put some time and thought into them because I want them to be realistic and successful with results slowly through the year this time. Hopefully, all the hard work I put into thinking of them in not wasted.

So, I am here to share the 4 important ones that I have always seem to remind myself of every year and every time. These are the ones that I always go back to and always seem to "post-pone" all the time.

1. Happiness
- I want to live a life with lots of happy moments that I can always remember on and it's nice to feel like the life I am living is not one with many faults and unpleasant thoughts. Living a life with happiness will guarantee me one thing for sure and that 1 thing is, making an impact.

2. Being/Becoming Healthy
- Slowly, I have been losing myself to the great battle of Food.
I am not proud but what can I say, I love food and I love eating new foods that are delicious. It's like second nature to me now but slowly as it happened, I started to notice, at a time too late, that I have gained some pounds. Clothing pieces I spent lots of money on don't fit as well anymore which is horrible because now, It means spending more money on clothes that may not fit as well either. It's a scary feeling and certainly, a waste of money.
So, I have slowly started changing my food habits and started to do lots of research on exercise routines that best fit me and not rush into it. I mean, it's still Winter and it does snow where I am from. For the next couple of months, I will be focusing on 2 major things which is food dieting that works great for me and indoor-easy exercise that won't stress me out too much about my life style. I don't want to change my life style in a day because if I do that, I might just go back to my old habits and routines so for me, this is the best way.

3. YouTube and Blogging
- This year, I want to keep up with YouTube and Blogging because I have been neglecting it and I do have a lot of "spare" time but I always get nervous and scared about what I post on my blog, record, and more. I seem to have this self-consciousness that just lingers on about what I want to put on my social medias. So, this year, I will just post to post because I want to be efficient with my time and mostly, I want to share things I have learned with you all too. I always tell myself it's okay that some people don't like what I post because everyone is born and raised different but if they can relate, it would be great. I hope that this year, this GOAL becomes successful.

4. Never forget "ME"
- As you start to age, you slowly start to become more noticeable to what you want in life but then along the way, you lose yourself to things you never thought possible.
This is something I always remind myself every month as I age because losing yourself is scary and it hurts not just your self-esteem, but everyone around you. I am glad I can have a Best Friend that can always help remind me that I just need to be myself around her and that it's okay if we don't meet "eye to eye" because that is what makes us human and unique.

I hope you all enjoy this little post with lots of words.
I know it was more like a rant but I really want to update you all on life changes and more.
I definately think it is great to have more than 1 goal but it just depends on you as a person to achieve them because they are your goals. I personally think if you have a world wide goal like losing weight or something, I suggest participating them with a friend/family or even having a support from your friend/family that can help you stay on track. I find it easier that way because it make you feel like you are not "alone" and sometimes, moral support is what you really need to most of the time.

Always see the better half of everything and You can definitely achieve a lot of things.

Thanks for reading my post and I will talk to you all next time.